Buddy Storm

                                       I posted this on LW but obviously NO ONE CARES

I feel like people around me depress me. They make me feel horrible about everything. My dad, I really wish I had an understanding dad. I get yelled at everyday for the least reasons, BELIEVE ME the reasons would surprise you. I'm so upset, and don't tell me to move out I CAN'T they won't let me do this and when I make threats that I'm going to leave they are always like "Okay...but don't ever come back". My friends, I'm really starting to feel like they are not my type, we've been friends for years but Idk, they hurt me enough, and they always apologize to me. I can't do that anymore, live with their mistakes because they won't stop happening.

How do I make myself feel better?? I never felt like this guys!! NEVER

keep your head up dont let life get ya down

I'm sick and tired of people telling me that all the time. I'm not a negative person. I'm just tired of ignoring this and trying to keep my head up! I feel like something is seriously wrong.

If they are truely your friends or truely sorry, they wouldn't hurt over and over.  Maybe it's time to flee the flock and find a new group of people?  I agree with Matt, don't let it get you down.  It will get better in time, I promise.

Maybe ask them why they continue to hurt you?  Have a talk with your dad.

You know I always thought that, Grammar. Things never get better with my dad around. I feel like he trys so hard to make me hate everything about my life, he hasd issues/work and stuff and when he's angry he lets it all out on me. He is never understanding. I honestly hate everything about my life right now

Depression is not caused by outside influences.  It is completely internal, and you must work on it internally.  Medication will help, but it is not the real solution if you are younger than 30.

Keeping a positive outlook is impossible unless you recognize that you are a worthy member of the human race, and you do have a purpose, and place on this planet.

If others depress you, it is up to you to decide whether you will allow that person to make you feel degraded, or depressed.  

It is virtually impossible to live up to other peoples idea of who, or how you should conduct your life.

Make a list of the things you believe in, things that you feel are your strong points, and the things you need to work on within yourself.

Everyone gets depressed at times.  I imagine that there is no one who is completely happy all the time.

As you grow older ( I don't know your age, but I have more history than future ) you develop a thicker skin, and develop a sense of "self".  If you are still in your teens, or early 20's you are still on the road to discovery of yourself, and still making your way in this very difficult world.

Some things are just not worth worrying over, and you need to discover which they are in your life.  Worry over the things you can change, and do that.  Don't worry over the ones you cannon change, but remember them, and see if you are indeed a little at fault.

As for the yelling at you for poor reasons, how about an example?  

You say you're getting yelled at and they are bringing you down but wont leave because they don't want you to come back if you leave. But why would you want to come back if they treat you like shit? Why do you care?

Luthersnail at 10:22PM on Aug 10, 2009

Depression is not caused by outside influences.  It is completely internal, and you must work on it internally.  Medication will help, but it is not the real solution if you are younger than 30.

Keeping a positive outlook is impossible unless you recognize that you are a worthy member of the human race, and you do have a purpose, and place on this planet.

If others depress you, it is up to you to decide whether you will allow that person to make you feel degraded, or depressed.  

It is virtually impossible to live up to other peoples idea of who, or how you should conduct your life.

Make a list of the things you believe in, things that you feel are your strong points, and the things you need to work on within yourself.

Everyone gets depressed at times.  I imagine that there is no one who is completely happy all the time.

As you grow older ( I don't know your age, but I have more history than future ) you develop a thicker skin, and develop a sense of "self".  If you are still in your teens, or early 20's you are still on the road to discovery of yourself, and still making your way in this very difficult world.

Some things are just not worth worrying over, and you need to discover which they are in your life.  Worry over the things you can change, and do that.  Don't worry over the ones you cannon change, but remember them, and see if you are indeed a little at fault.

As for the yelling at you for poor reasons, how about an example?  

He yells/punishes me when I get mad at them for going into my room and invading my privacy. He yells at me for keeping people close to me. He doesn't want me to do anything. I can't remember everything right now but believe me he has his weird times ....urgggh

I'm 18 btw

Kaijuu at 10:39PM on Aug 10, 2009

You say you're getting yelled at and they are bringing you down but wont leave because they don't want you to come back if you leave. But why would you want to come back if they treat you like shit? Why do you care?

My children in the future will deserve loving grandparents. I need them in my life

At 18, you are a legal adult, but since you still live with your parents, you should understand that they still consider you a little girl.  To them, they still have their "baby" living at home just as she has all their lives.  I doubt that they think of your room as your private space.  

Have you talked to them about it?  I mean just sit down, and have a little talk?  No yelling, no accusations, just adult talk.

Have you given him any reason to distrust you?  do you think he is afraid of losing his little girl?

Of course it could be he is just nosy.  Some parents are just that way, and you might have to talk to your Mom about it.  Maybe even think about a lock on the door.

Luthersnail at 11:19PM on Aug 10, 2009

At 18, you are a legal adult, but since you still live with your parents, you should understand that they still consider you a little girl.  To them, they still have their "baby" living at home just as she has all their lives.  I doubt that they think of your room as your private space.  

Have you talked to them about it?  I mean just sit down, and have a little talk?  No yelling, no accusations, just adult talk.

Have you given him any reason to distrust you?  do you think he is afraid of losing his little girl?

Of course it could be he is just nosy.  Some parents are just that way, and you might have to talk to your Mom about it.  Maybe even think about a lock on the door.

No, never. It's not like I am keeping him worried all the time. Everybody know I am mature, I don't even think like 18 year olds, this is what the whole family believes. I think he's jealous of me lol, I know it sounds weird but maybe he is. He corrects me when I'm right all the time, he actually hates it.

I wish if I could sit and talk to him, he's not the lets-have-anice-talk type! He turns everything into a fight!

He hates it when I say " this is my life now". He gets really mad, he hates it when I say that. That's weird, lol

I'm only asking for so little, you know! I just want him to live his life and stop living mine, he makes me sick uuurrgghh

I would bet you are an only child.  Your Dad sound just like he is afraid you will move out, and he thinks you will go on, and forget him.  He might just be learning that his influence on you, and that his control of you is ending, and he does not know what to do.

It is a common "pre-empty nest" thing that parents get when their kids grow up.  

Of course, I am just guessing by what you type.

Maybe you should re-assure him that he will never lose you, and that you will always be around in one way, or another.

I'm not an only child.

Dreams at 11:54PM on Aug 10, 2009

I'm not an only child.

does he treat the others like that?

ッTinkerbell ッ Schöne Katastrophe at 11:56PM on Aug 10, 2009

Dreams at 11:54PM on Aug 10, 2009

I'm not an only child.

does he treat the others like that?

No, he spoils them because they're little and he punishes me when they do something wrong